I can imagine that the first trimester for every pregnant woman is nerve-racking. The first trimester with lupus is even more so. It’s nerve-racking, overwhelming, exciting and scary all at once. Not only do you have to worry about taking care of yourself AND a baby, you also have to worry about miscarriages and how your lupus is going to affect your pregnancy (and your baby).
With lupus I was at a higher risk of miscarriage. I have talked to a couple of lupus patients with kids and they both had at least one miscarriage. One of them had three. Knowing this, Pete and I prepared ourselves for a miscarriage. We expected it. I completely disconnected myself with the situation so I wouldn’t get too excited or attached. Every time I didn’t have a doctor’s appointment for a few weeks, the week before I was extremely nervous. The minute it took to find the heartbeat when I wasn’t that far long ...Continue Reading →